Children are born living fully from their hearts, with a deep hunger to belong and to matter. Sadly, children learn to deny, numb, or hide these true feelings and needs in order to secure the love and belonging their hearts long for. They put on more and more personality to gain what they are looking for, after a period of time; this can turn into anxiety, depression, and unhealthy coping skills.
Often, the “presenting problem” that brings an adolescent to therapy is the result of unhealthy or destructive attempts to manage, escape, or hide their hearts.
The process of “recovering” the heart of a child involves giving them per- mission to express their truest feelings, needs, desires, and longing by telling their stories within a safe relationship.
It is a “taking off” of all the behaviors and personality they have put on to gain love and acceptance and understanding their essence of self is where love and acceptance starts.
We work WITH parents AND children to create a space where we can bridge the gap in communication and understanding each other in the par- ent/child dynamic. Adolescence is a uniquely different developmental experience for the child and parent. With competence, knowledge, skills and experience our unique ability to work with adolescents brings understanding, healing and awareness of emotions.
It is through the dynamic relationship between the teen and therapist that true change and healing can occur.
We work to be a safe place for your child or adolescent to discover and celebrate the unique image of God they are created to be.
Teens are able to overcome immeasurable suffering if they feel cared for, supported by, and understood by at least one primary caregiver.
We are honored to be entrusted with your child’s emotions and pay great reverence to the ability to speak truth into your child. As parents, we know it’s hard to find someone you trust and that your child will trust to bridge the gap in understanding the parent/child dynamic.
Social and cultural conversations about adolescents are negative. At Cornerstone, we work to understand each unique perspective of every teen that walks through our door. We help parents speak their language and work to create an environment of understanding. The process of adoles- cence as a positive and beautiful journey that’s fun and inspired. If you’re a teen that just needs a safe, nonjudgemental place to talk, you don’t have to wait until you’re 30 or 40. You can begin the journey of living into who God made you to be. You can love yourself and feel comfortable in the skin you’re in.
At Cornerstone we believe it is necessary to understand teen in the system in which they function—- the family. Using this approach to therapy, we work in a cyclical nature with teens, and parents to bridge the gap in communication and understanding.
You be you, and I’ll be me
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
I’ll let you be you You let me be me
~ adapted from Fritz Pearls
Our therapeutic process involves an authentic relationship that offers a space of unconditional positive regard to help teens live into who God made them and learning to accept themselves. Adolescents experience the same feelings that adults do, but from a different perspective. With knowledge and understanding of the adolescent developmental perspective, Cornerstone has a special touch to be able to bridge the gap in parent and teen communication and understanding.
At Cornerstone our unique touch to understanding adolescent experience includes:
- Attachment Issues
- Attachment Trauma Behavioral concerns
- Body Language
- Body image
- Coping skills
- Divorce adjustment Molestation
- Eating disorders
- Obsessions / Compulsions Relationship with family/friends School related stress
- Sexual addiction
- Substance abuse
- Suicidal tendencies
- Unplanned pregnancy